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Some young children go through a phase where they express their frustrations by hitting, biting, or scratching. A normal phase of development that is of great concern to the parents of both the child who scratches and the parents of the children who suffer from scratches.
Why children scratch and what to do when a child engages in this behavior are the two questions we address in this article.
Biting, hitting, and scratching are three exploratory and frustration-releasing behaviors that occur fairly frequently in children between the ages of 12 and 36 months.
While it is true that this type of behavior is part of normal child development, it is understandable that parents of children who have begun to perform this type of behavior are worried and anxious and that we should stop them as soon as possible by offering alternative behaviors . Nobody likes to be noticed because their son has scratched another child or to find our son with his face marked by the scratches of a classmate.
Between 12-18 months, children are immersed in their learning process, and they try all kinds of behaviors, including biting, slapping and scratching. These aggressive behaviors are part of their learning and development and we should not give it more importance than it has.
Children can start scratching for different reasons or motives, if we identify which is our little one it will help us to find another way to express themselves. There are children who scratch to defend themselves, to obtain a benefit (a toy, adult attention, ...), as a means of expressing their frustration ...
As always, understanding why our child is engaging in this behavior will help us find a way to help him eliminate this type of aggressive behavior.
When one child scratches another, we must act firmly but without severity. Let us remember that these are young children who are learning to regulate their emotions and we, their parents or educators, are their reference model, therefore:
1. You never have to return the scratch to see that it hurts your nails. By doing this we only convey the misconception that violence is an appropriate way to handle emotions.
2. Nor will we reward scratching behavior with a smile or anything like that.
3. Parents and educators (when children go to kindergarten) must work together to tackle these harmful behaviors.
4. Do not call him bad or similar phrases, this in the long run undermines his self-esteem. There are no bad children, only inappropriate behaviors that we must redirect.
5. Sometimes the more we insist that they stop carrying out a behavior like this, the opposite effect occurs.
6. We can apply a time out of reinforcement, that is, after the 'aggression' we will remove the child from the place where the event has happened to explain that this type of behavior is not good.
The habit of scratching, that of hitting or biting, usually disappears with time, although in some cases it is very persistent and may last up to 3-4 years.
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